
If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem so clear when speaking about their business or purpose, it’s not because they’re a million times smarter than you.
It’s not because they’ve made some faustian deal with the devil to give them the answers in exchange for their soul.
It’s usually because they’ve found a way to put the bullshit behind them and simply get real.
Against my mother’s wishes (she claims I give away all my secrets for free), I’m going to give away a secret to what I do:
A secret that allows me to help my clients get clear on the underlying message of their business and set the groundwork for copy that resonates with their ideal clients (and also themselves).
It’s a secret that if you pay attention to and actually internalize, it can get you on the path to finding out who the hell you are and why people should listen to you.
Here we go:
Most people struggle with messaging because it involves surrendering to who you truly are. Most people struggle because it means letting go of who you want people to think you are, and acknowledgment of who you truly are. This requires complete acceptance of where you came from, and all that it took to get you where you are today.
Some Truth: If you truly want to get clear on who you are, what you stand for, and what you want your business to be, you’ll have to come to a place where you are able to remove yourself from any attachment to how your message will be received.
What do I mean? I mean you can’t worry about how your message will be perceived by others and instead just state it in a way that is in alignment with how you really feel.
(Please note, that this is not an article telling you to just blurt out every thought, idea, or feeling you have. It’s to let you know that getting honest with yourself and not worrying about being judged is the first step to take in figuring out your message).
Want to know what keeps most people from uncovering their message?
It usually begins when someone has something they want to share that they deem as valuable and/or important. They try to share what they have to say. The person on the other end may not match their level of excitement. When that happens they start to doubt their initial idea. They begin to self-edit in the moment, instead of staying committed to the idea we originally had.
The truth is that most people are distracted when you speak with them. They’ve got a million other thoughts running through their mind and may not always hear what you’re saying as you say it. Knowing that, you’ve got to be consistent in what you’re saying (without worrying about response) for those rare opportunities when someone actually is paying attention.

You have to believe what you believe regardless of interpretation. Not everyone will resonate with what you have to say.
I’ve said it a million times already, but that’s what you want.
It starts with something that inspires you. And it continues with your testing it with your ideal clients.
Make sure you catch that.
It continues (because it never truly ends) with your testing it with your ideal clients.
In improv, they teach us about the principle of “yes, and.” It’s about being in the moment and not judging. It’s about acceptance of flow, staying present, and just letting whatever bubbles up to come in and get out of you.
Uncovering your message is no different. It’s about giving yourself permission to say what you have to say in the moment without editing or filtering. If you can’t allow yourself to let yourself think out loud without judgement, you’ll never come close to uncovering what this is all really about for you.
There’s enough people out there in this world who feel the need to judge everything we do. Don’t be so cruel to yourself to judge yourself while you’re creating.
Fight the good fight. Win the battle.
Now get writing.